Lily's House

Saving one child at a time!

Chinese Version

安娜


她是⼀個天⽣下肢畸形的漂亮小⼥孩,出⽣⼏天后就被⽣⽗母棄養,送到內蒙的福

利院被養育著。需要母親的她成天黏著⼀個阿姨不放,令⼈看了⼼疼。莉莉與福利

院的關係很好,將她带回自⼰小家抚养,并积极为她寻找领养⽗母。近两岁的她⼀

天被罗兹夫妇在领养机构的⽹站上看到。罗兹先⽣⼀眼就爱上她,认为她是在多年

不孕后上天所给的礼物。罗兹太太则有些犹豫,因为自⼰的母亲正是⼀个脚残疾⼈

。罗兹太太虽然对照料脚残疾⼉童充满自信,却担⼼母亲的坚决反对。⼏经挣扎后

罗兹太太终于将安娜的照片给了母亲看。没想到⼀反她⼀贯的态度,这外祖母马上

接受了这个孩⼦,并说脚残疾不是啥么⼤问题,她自⼰就是个明证!

安娜在两岁多回到了新泽西的家,经过⼿术后装上了义肢,如今六岁的她⽂武双全

,不仅钢琴阅读表现优异,芭蕾、踢球、滑冰、体操也都有涉猎。她最爱的就是游

泳,是只⼗⾜的⼈鱼公主。(安娜的故事英⽂完整版在此:

https://www.nohandsbutours.com/2016/06/28/part-world-mermaid-tale/

罗兹夫妇因为安娜与莉莉之家结下了不解之缘,之后又去领养了患有贫⾎症及语⾔

迟缓的提摩太来给安娜作弟弟。现在提摩太是个挺能用语⾔表达并身体健壮的小伙

⼦。罗兹夫妇也不遗余⼒地支持莉莉之家,为莉莉的孩⼦代⾔、寻找领养家庭。


威尔斯和露丝

与安娜同⼀时期在莉莉家成长的威尔斯,是先天脊柱裂及⽔脑症的患者。他活泼爱

说话,是个小帅哥。住在南卡罗莱纳州的⾼贝特夫妇,有三个亲⽣的⼉⼥,还有着

从上帝来的爱⼼。他们决定要借着领养残疾⼉童来扩张他们的家,威尔斯便很幸运

地成为这温暖家庭的⼀份⼦。

当⾼贝特夫妇去中国领养威尔斯时,在莉莉的小家认识了同样患有脊柱裂及⽔脑症

、并且还半身不遂的露丝。⾼贝特太太⼼疼的这个⼥孩,回美国后便积极地为露丝

在领养社群⽹站上代⾔,打⼴告,希望有爱⼼的⽗母能与这个孩⼦投缘,愿意将她

领回家。两三年过去了,露丝仍然在莉莉的照顾下成长,有⼀天却突然接到要被原

⽣福利院接回去的消息。⾼贝特太太知道福利院⽆法与莉莉精⼼经营的小家相比,

孩⼦肯定不习惯,她⼼里特别着急,⼏经思索后,突然明白那个与露丝投缘的⽗母

竟是自⼰!

其他曾从莉莉家领养过孩⼦的⽗母知道⾼贝特夫妇领养露丝的意愿,都愿意帮忙,

还有⼈在自⼰的教会团体分享,⼀下⼦就募到了第⼀笔领养需用、不小的款项。不

久后,露丝也进⼊⾼贝特家,成了有⽗母亲疼惜的宝贝⼥⼉。

如今威尔斯是个爱家、爱好户外活动及游泳的男孩。露丝则是能灵活自如地操作轮

椅,上学、⾛动都⽆碍。她爱学习,但更爱黏在母亲身边,爱她如今⼀共有七个孩

⼦、温暖热闹的家!

奥黛丽

住在德州的莎拉.汉斯勃⼥⼠是个认真尽责的小学特教老师。她拥有⼀栋小房⼦,

⼀个小菜园,⼏条狗,过着充实美好的单身⽣活。她对孩⼦总有⼀股热情,除了将

她的才华投在自⼰学⽣身上,也时常浏览慈善领养机构⽹站,为着有特殊需要的孩

⼦祷告。⼀天她看到了⼀个⼗⼀岁、患有脊柱裂并需要坐轮椅的⼥孩,她的⼼被触

动了。她不禁深深地为这个看起来挺灵的⼥孩向上帝祈福,求 神赐给她⼀个家庭

。就在此时莎拉突然有⼀个想法,似乎上帝在对她的⼼说话,也许,她可以成为这

个可爱⼥孩的母亲?

这⼥孩就是住在莉莉家里的奥黛丽。她的确是个聪慧的孩⼦,⽽且极具绘画天赋。

莉莉为了培养她,还会带她去上绘画课。因为她的伶俐,许多到过莉莉家的访客都

对她印象深刻。梅森太太及史密斯太太是其中兩個為她代⾔的訪客。就是她們為奧

黛莉在領養機構上寫的博客及分享的照片打動了莎拉的⼼。

莎拉的小学教师薪资虽然养活自⼰⽆碍,但要负担⼀⼤笔领养的⼿续费却是⼀个问

题。⽽此时又发⽣了哈维飓风来袭,她的房⼦、⼯作、及领养⼿续都受到影响。但

她没有放弃,其他莉莉之家的⽗母再次地伸出援⼿,加上她自⼰积极地募款,逐渐

的,她的资⾦集全了,她终于踏上了中国领养之旅,把那个令她魂牵梦萦的⼥孩带

回家。

现在奥黛丽与母亲及外祖母住在⼀起,时常快乐地照顾家里的小农场。因為莎拉對

教育的專長,奧黛莉得以在家自学,稳扎稳打地跟上功课。她仍然继续画画,最爱

画动漫⼈物。她也上中⽂学校,保持着自⼰原来的语⾔和⽂化。

安娜贝⼉

最早送到莉莉家被照顾的孩⼦中,年纪最小的其⼀就是安娜贝⼉。她五个月就到了

莉莉家,但在⼤多数⼈的眼中,她甚⾄连⽣存的条件都没有。她患有严重的脑瘫,

癫痫,肌张⼒障碍,智能障碍等,她只能成天躺着,并⽆任何反应。与她同期到莉

莉家的孩⼦都相继被领养,只有她还留在莉莉家,⼀待待了七年,也许会⼀直如此

下去。

远在美国加州的潘蜜拉宾⼥⼠是个寡妇,独立抚养了四个孩⼦长⼤,好不容易最小

的孩⼦就快独立成⼈了,她却感觉内⼼有个强烈要领养残疾孩童的意愿,也许这与

她的⼯作有关,因她是个载送残疾⼈的巴⼠司机。她⼼里向上帝祷告,若是这是您

的旨意,您需要亲自指出⼀条明路。

⼀天她在⼀位领养了中国孤⼉的亲戚家看到安娜贝⼉的照片,她似乎明白这就是她

的⼥⼉。然⽽,她连去中国领养的资格都不符合。就在她在思索要如何带这个⼥孩

回家的同时,中国的领养规范突然有了⼀个改变 —- 单身的⼈也可以领养了!潘蜜

拉受到了鼓励,开始积极募款,⽽且就在她准备要踏上旅程之前,有⽆名的善⼼⼈

⼠捐给了她最后⼀⼤笔款项,使她能顺利出发。

她从莉莉家接上了⼥⼉,在中国的导游却⼀直劝她放弃安娜贝⼉,不要带她回家。

但最后却被她坚持的爱⼼所感动,把她们母⼥当成上宾对待。如今六年过后,潘蜜

拉依然深深感谢莉莉多年对安娜贝⼉的完善照顾,使得她现在成为⼀个幽默、有主

见又快乐的孩⼦。在良好的医疗资源下,她可以使用眼睛来控制电脑,玩计算机游

戏。她在教会、⼥童军团都有许多爱她的朋友,常推着她的轮椅到处⾛动。特殊教

育的团队还带她尝试了骑马、⽔上摩托车,让她有极快乐的时光。谁能说她的⽣命

不丰盛、不值得呢?

法兰克

潘蜜拉在莉莉家领养⽗母所组成的⼤家庭里,依然时常关⼼那些最弱、最有需要的

孩⼦。法兰克就是如此抓住了她的⼼,因为他与安娜贝⼉的状况最像。

然⽽,法兰克却是⼀个身体极其脆弱的孩⼦,当初从福利院送来给莉莉照顾时,莉

莉及阿姨们便⼼里有数,这个孩⼦应该⽆法有太长的⽣命。然⽽莉莉对孩⼦的爱⼼

并不受影响,她花了⼤笔资⾦给法兰克买呼吸机,还特别安排⼀个专门的阿姨照顾

法兰克,定期为他翻身,并时常抱他、抚慰他。

远在美国的潘蜜拉则是深深地为他祈祷,巴不得马上就能去中国把这个内⼼已视为

自⼰⼉⼦的男孩接回家。法兰克却没有这个福⽓回家,他的身体其实连坐飞机长途

旅⾏都⽆法承受。终于,在莉莉及阿姨的温暖照顾下,以及众⼈、尤其是潘蜜拉为

他的祈祷中,小小的法兰克添了天使之翼,离开了这个世界。

潘蜜拉为他伤⼼欲绝,她只能盼望,将来在天堂上帝那里,她能给法兰克⼀个深深

的拥抱,让他知道,他在她的⼼里,从来不是个孤⼉,⽽是她的孩⼦。

(法兰克故事的英语完整版在此:

https://www.nohandsbutours.com/2017/04/30/love-stories-beautiful-thing/

班杰明

法兰克的⽣命,似乎又短又⽆奈,但他却为另外⼀个孩⼦的⼈⽣,带来了巨⼤的转

变……

班杰明被送到莉莉家里寄养时,已经⼗三岁了。他患有脑瘫,⼀⽣从未站起来或⾛

过。这个孩⼦,应该是属于最难被领养的族群之⼀。除了他的特殊需要相当⼤之外

,他的年纪已经快到被领养的⼗四岁上限了。在不到⼀年的时间要找到愿意领养他

的家庭,并且要尽快办理完各样繁杂的⼿续,这⼏乎是不可能的任务。

许多⼈都劝莉莉别接受这个孩⼦,将他送回福利院去,然⽽莉莉却不愿意放弃。她

对来访的罗兹太太说,“就像法兰克⼀样,虽然是希望这么渺茫的⽣命,孩⼦到了

我的⼿上,我就要尽⼒照顾、帮助他们...” 两个⼈谈到此,都不禁流下了泪⽔。⽽

就是提到法兰克的这⼀席话,转变了班杰明的⼈⽣。罗兹太太想起了潘蜜拉。在她

的⼼中潘蜜拉是个极有爱⼼的英雄,⽽且挺有能⼒照顾严重残疾的孩⼦。也许,她

会愿意为班杰明提供⼀个家?罗兹太太答应会尽量为班杰明代⾔,并且与潘蜜拉联

系,问她的领养的意愿如何。

为班杰明在社交⽹站上发表的代⾔⼴告,⼏天内就被分享了七⼗次,潘蜜拉却毫⽆

反应。罗兹太太终于鼓起勇⽓专程联络了潘蜜拉,问她是否有意愿领养班杰明,当

然也客⽓地请她分享班杰明的代⾔⼴告。潘蜜拉显然对班杰明并⽆特殊感觉,但却

答应会在自⼰的社交平台上立马分享。没想到,第⼆天事情就有了转机。

蓉达卡门太太是潘蜜拉的朋友,两⼈因家里同样都有脑瘫⼉童⽽结识。蓉达看到了

潘蜜拉分享的⼴告,⼼里就对这个与自⼰⼉⼦同样患脑瘫,年龄也相仿的男孩感到

⼼碎。她不能想象这个孩⼦将永远为孤⼉,没有⽗母的爱及良好的医疗照顾。她从

未想过领养的事,却为班杰明彻夜未眠。她丈夫起先以为她疯了,但不久后也愿意

领养这个孩⼦。⼿续于是如⽕如荼地展开,终于他们在班杰明⽣日前⼣签下了最后

⼀份领养⽂件,班杰明卡门在中国与爸爸妈妈⼀起庆祝了他的⼗四岁⽣日!

班杰明回到加州的家中,他有美好坚毅的个性,对⽗母充满了感激。他可用助步器

⾏⾛,并与脑瘫的哥哥,及三个健康活泼的弟妹有很好的互动。他对上学感到兴奋,

但就像⼤多数⼗⼏岁的孩⼦,他更享受在户外玩耍,以及美式甜食!卡门家非常珍

视这个上天所赐的礼物,这个领养不仅改变了班杰明的⼈⽣,也给卡门全家带来祝

福。

结语

莉莉

English Version

Anna

Anna is a beautiful little girl born with a deformed leg. She was abandoned a day or so after birth and was sent to the government welfare institute in Inner Mongolia. Desperately needing a mother, she would hold tightly to one particular nanny and never let go, which made everyone who saw her feel so heartbroken.
 

Lily (the director of Lily’s House, formerly known as Harmony House) had a great relationship with the orphan welfare institute, so she asked to bring Anna back to her small group home where it was easier to find her an adoptive family. One day the two-year-old’s picture was seen by Mr. and Mrs. L on their adoption agency’s website. Mr. L fell in love immediately, thinking this is a gift from God after many years of struggling with infertility. Mrs. L, on the other hand, was hesitant. Mrs. L’s mother previously had strongly opposed the idea of adopting a disabled child because of her own leg disabilities. Even though Mrs. L felt confident about caring for a special needs child, she was afraid of her mother’s reaction. It took Mrs. L sometime to finally show her mother Anna’s picture. Much to her surprise her grandma accepted the child right away, and even said a leg disability was no problem at all — she herself was proof that disabled people could live a great life!
 

Anna came home shortly after she turned two. She had leg surgery and a prosthetic leg was fitted for her. Now years later, this smart six-year-old is not only good at activities that are sedentary like reading and piano, she has also done ballet, ice skating, gymnastics and cheerleading. What she loves the most is swimming and is often called “The Little Mermaid”! (The extended version of Anna’s story is here http://www.nohandsbutours.com/2016/06/28/part-world-mermaid-tale/
 

Because of Anna, Mr. and Mrs. L have become great friends with Lily. Later they adopted another child under Lily’s care, Timothy, who had a form of hereditary anemia and was also language delayed. Today the five year-old boy is a healthy, happy and stout child who expresses himself well. Mr. and Mrs. L have made every effort to support Lily’s House and continue to advocate for the children to find them forever families.

Wills and Ruth

Around the same time that Anna was at Lily’s group home, Wills, a child with spina bifida and hydrocephalus was also spending part of his early life there where he was an extroverted little handsome guy who loved to talk. Mr. and Mrs. G had three biological children at the time and also had a big heart from God to care for vulnerable children. They decided to expand their family through adopting special needs children. Thus, Wills entered this warm and beautiful household and became a blessed son.  

When Mr. and Mrs. G went to China to adopt Wills, they met Ruth, another child at Lily’s House. Ruth was also diagnosed with spina bifida and hydrocephalus, which caused her to be paraplegic. Mrs. G felt so heartbroken for this girl that once she returned to America, she became very active in advocating for Ruth in social media and adoption groups. She hoped there would be parents who would feel connected with Ruth and touched by her beautiful smile and big eyes, and would be willing to bring her home. After two or three years, under Lily’s care, a notification came saying Ruth had to be sent back to the orphan welfare institute where she originally came from. Mrs. G knew that the state institute could not compare to Lily’s House of which Lily had poured so much love, labor and time into Ruth. She was anxious and sad for she knew Ruth would have a hard time adjusting back to the institute after being in Lily’s House for so long. After contemplating on the matter, she suddenly realized that she, herself, was to be Ruth’s mother, since she felt such a connection with her and was touched by her bright spirit. 

When other parents who had adopted from Lily’s House learned about Mr. and Mrs. G’s intention of adopting Ruth, they were all willing to jump in and help. One person shared in her own church group and quickly raised a considerable amount of money that was needed to start the adoption process. Not long after, Ruth joined the G family, becoming a precious daughter of a loving mom and dad. 

Today, Wills is a boy who loves his family, outdoor activities and swimming. His sister Ruth can move around easily with her wheelchair at home and in school. She loves to learn, but loves even more to be around her mommy. They both love their warm and lively family of seven children!

Audrey

Ms. Sarah H is a hard-working school teacher who lives in Texas who owns a small house, a little veggie garden and a few dogs, living a nice and fulfilled single life. She has always been passionate about children. Other than pouring out her talents in teaching her own students, she often browsed the websites of charity organizations and adoption agencies praying for those children in need. One day she saw an eleven-year-old wheel-chair bound girl who had spina bifida. Her heart was deeply touched. She started to pray earnestly for the girl that God would bring her a family. Unexpectedly a thought came to her, as if God was speaking to her, maybe she could become the mother of this lovely girl?

This girl was Audrey, who was living in Lily’s House at the time. Being a smart girl and very good at drawing, Lily would even bring her to art classes to develop her talents. Because of her intelligence and mature interaction with the adults, she often left a great impression with many visitors to Lily’s House, including Mrs. S and Mrs. M. It was these two ladies who advocated for Audrey on the adoption agency’s website, and shared her photos that eventually would touch Sarah’s heart. 

Sarah’s salary as a school teacher was sufficient for her, but she would not be able to afford the high cost of adoption. At the same time Hurricane Harvey devastated her area, affecting her house, her job and even the adoption process. However, she decided to proceed despite the setbacks and hardships. Other parents, who are supporters of Lily’s House, again stepped in to help, and she herself also worked very hard to fundraise. Slowly yet steadily she raised enough funds, and was finally able to start her adoption journey to China eventually bringing the girl of her dreams home.

Audrey now lives with her loving mother and grandmother. She loves taking care of their little farm and garden, and because of Sarah’s expertise in education, Audrey is able to be homeschooled and is steadily catching up with school work. She still draws a lot and loves to make lively cartoon characters. She also goes to Chinese school to keep the language and culture of her origin.

Annabelle

Among the first group of kids who were sent to be cared for by Lily, Annabelle was one of the youngest. She suffered from severe cerebral palsy, seizures, muscle spasms, and mental retardation. In many people’s eyes, survival was almost impossible. She spent most of the day lying in bed relatively expressionless. The other children at Lily’s house were slowly being adopted one by one, except for Annabelle. She stayed at Lily’s House for seven years, and there was little hope of her being adopted.
 

Ms. Pamela B was a widow and had raised four children to almost adulthood. When her youngest were finally graduating from high school, she started to have a restless yearning to adopt a special needs child. This could be related to her job in which she is a bus driver for disabled adults. She prayed to God, “If adoption is your will, you have to open the door for me.”
 

One day while on the computer and viewing pictures of a relative who had recently adopted from China, she came across a picture of Annabelle. As soon as she saw this picture, deep in her heart she knew Annabelle was to be her daughter. However, she was not even qualified for China adoption because of her single marital status. In the days that followed, while contemplating on how she could adopt, China’s rules suddenly changed to allow singles to adopt! Pamela was greatly encouraged and started to actively fundraise. Before she was due to travel, she received a huge anonymous donation, and thus started her adoption journey.
 

Pamela picked up her daughter from Lily’s House, where she was very impressed by how well the girl was cared for. However, for the rest of her trip, she was bombarded by the Chinese tour guide who was trying to persuade her not to bring Annabelle home because of her severe disabilities. But over the course of the journey the tour guide had a change of heart and was touched by Pamela’s enduring love for this precious child. At the end both Annabelle and Pamela were treated as VIPs, and even the tour guide bid them a tearful goodbye for the incredible love she had witnessed.

Now after six years Pamela is still grateful for Lily’s loving and wholesome care for Annabelle, who has become a funny, opinionated and happy child. With the excellent medical resources available, Annabelle can operate computers with her eyes to play simple games. She has many friends in church and Girl Scouts who adore her and loves to push her around in her wheelchair. She even had the opportunities to try horseback riding and jet skiing with a special team’s help, although that nearly gave her mother a heart attack despite that she was having a blast! Who can say that Annabelle doesn’t have an abundant life that’s worth living?

Frank

Pamela is the one of those in the big extended family of Lily’s House’s support parents that cares about the most vulnerable and needy children. That is how baby Frank caught her eyes and her heart, because he had the condition very similar to Annabelle’s. 

Frank’s condition was extremely severe and fragile. When he was first sent to Lily’s House, both Lily and the nannies had already mentally prepared themselves that this child’s life would be short. However, Lily’s love and care was not deterred by his condition. A huge amount of money was allocated to buy a breathing machine for Frank, and Lily also assigned a specific nanny to care for him, periodically changing his position in bed, picking him up, holding him and comforting him. 

Pamela, on the other side of world, was praying fervently for him. She was hoping to adopt Frank one day and bring this precious child home to receive a family’s love and good medical care. Sadly, however, Frank did not have the good fortune to come home. Even if someone could go to China to adopt him, his body was too weak to make the long flight home, and in the loving care of Lily and the nannies and the prayers of many people (especially Pamela), baby Frank gained his angel wings and departed this world.

It was a sad time for Lily and all the people in this extended family. Pamela’s heart was broken to pieces, and she could only hope that one day in heaven she would be able to give Frank a big hug. She wants him to know that in her heart he was never an orphan, but was her son! (The full version of Frank’s story is here https://www.nohandsbutours.com/2017/04/30/love-stories-beautiful-thing/

Benjamin

Frank’s short life seemed to be sad and meaningless, but because of him another child’s life was dramatically changed.

When Benjamin was sent to Lily’s House to receive foster care, he was already thirteen years old. He was diagnosed with cerebral palsy, and had never stood or walked in his whole life. He belonged to the “hardest to place” categories among all the Chinese orphans waiting to be adopted because of his age, gender and special needs, and when he turned fourteen, he would no longer be eligible for adoption. It was hard enough to find him an adoptive family in such a short time, not to mention the nearly insurmountable adoption paperwork that also needed to be accomplished before the deadline. It was almost “mission impossible”!

Many people had tried to convince Lily not to receive this child and to send him back to his orphanage, but Lily did not want to give him up. She told Mrs. L who was visiting her at the time, “Just like baby Frank, even if there is little hope for this child, if he was sent to me, I would try my best to care for him and to help him…” They both shed tears when they talked about Frank, but it was this conversation about Frank that gave Mrs. L an idea. She thought of Pamela, and in her heart Pamela was a heroine who was full of passion and love, and who was also capable of giving good care to severely disabled children. Maybe she would be willing to provide Benjamin with a family? Mrs. L promised Lily to advocate for him, and would also contact Pamela to find out if she was willing to adopt him. 

The advocacy post for Benjamin was shared among adoption groups on social media over seventy times in just a few days. Everyone felt so heartbroken to hear Benjamin’s tearful plea “I just want a mommy!” Not having heard from Pamela, Mrs. L finally mustered her courage to contact Pamela, and to politely ask her if she would consider either adopting Benjamin or advocating for him. Although Pamela did not feel led to adopt Benjamin, she promised to share Benjamin’s advocacy post to her own social media circle. Little did they know, the turning point would come quickly the next day.

Mrs. Rhonda C was a friend of Pamela. They knew each other because of a commonality of having a child with cerebral palsy. Rhonda saw the advocacy post that Pamela shared, and her heart was broken for this boy who had the same condition and was about the same age as her son. She couldn’t imagine this child being an orphan forever, and never knowing the love of a mother and father or receiving good medical care. She had never thought of adoption before, but now she started to lose sleep over Benjamin. At first her husband thought she had lost her mind, but eventually he changed and was desiring to adopt him as well. Thus, the adoption paperwork began and surprisingly advanced rapidly. Finally, just before Benjamin’s 14th birthday they signed the last adoption document. Benjamin C celebrated his 14th birthday in China with his forever mommy and daddy!

Benjamin came back home to California and was welcomed by his four siblings and many friends and family. He has an easygoing personality and is very grateful for his parents. Now he is able to walk with a walker, and interacts well with his brother who also has cerebral palsy. He also loves to hang out with his three other very active and athletic siblings. He is excited about going to school, but just like any other teenager, he enjoys even more spending time outdoors and eating American desserts! The C family really treasures this gift from God, and the adoption not only changed Benjamin’s life, it also blessed the whole family tremendously. 

结语

莉莉的慈善⽣涯中,这样的故事层出不穷。已经有⼀百多个孩⼦从她的照顾中顺利

进⼊领养家庭。如今莉莉仍然奔驰不懈地造福孤⼉以及有残疾的孩童及家庭。她的

⼯作实在不容忽视!


Conclusion

These stories are just a sample among many stories that have occurred in Lily’s career of caring for orphans. Over one hundred thirty children who were under her care have found their forever families, and Lily is still tirelessly working to care for orphans and support children with special needs as well as their families. It is hard to forget all that Lily has done, and her remarkable work has truly changed many children and families’ lives. Lily’s continuing hope is to change the lives of many more children not only providing so many more wonderful and miraculous stories but ultimately giving children love, hope and a future!